The Antidote to Envy
05Feb 2019
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Written by Lifebook Member Dr. Joel Wade, Ph.D.

One step in building a better quality of life is dealing with what gets in the way for us. Envy can be a huge barrier to success, and mastering this particular emotion can open doors that we’ve padlocked on ourselves with its devastating premise.

Envy is an ugly emotion with awful effects. Most religious and spiritual teachings warn of it, the dangers are well known, yet envy persists as a powerful destructive force. It isn’t about having very little, we aren’t particularly unhappy when we have very little; but we do become very unhappy, depressed, and bitter when we dwell on having less than our neighbor.

But there is an antidote to envy: empathy, and the effective redirection of our initial impulses. It can also help to more fully understand this destructive and bitter emotion.

Envy de-humanizes the person envied. When we envy another person, we are not seeing that person for who they are, we are seeing them for what they have. It breeds malevolence; when we envy, we are not happy for the success of our neighbor, we are resentful of it.

Envy serves to diminish our capacity for empathy, and this lack of empathy makes it possible for people to do horrible things to one another.

It also reinforces a self image of helplessness and impotence. Envy implies disbelief in ourselves; it presupposes that we don’t feel we can create the wealth, the relationships, the values that we see in others, and this helplessness can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, limiting our ability to work toward what we would like to create in our lives.

But, like any negative emotion, by catching ourselves and understanding what we’re feeling, we can redirect our actions in a way that works much better for us.

Envy is, initially, an impulse; a reaction to perceptions. But that’s not where the danger lies. We’ve probably all felt at least a twinge of envy as an emotion at some point in our lives. It becomes dangerous only when we hang on to it, indulge it, and feed it.

We are full of somewhat automatic emotional reactions. Malcolm Gladwell has written in Blink how people who think of themselves as free of racist sentiment – himself included – have been shown to have an involuntary emotional reaction to people who look different from themselves.

But this reaction tells us nothing about racism. It is a vestige of our long tribal past, when “different” likely meant violent conflict and mortal danger. We see “different,” and there is a reflexive moment of alert. But research has shown that in less than 4 minutes, if there is no attention drawn to such physical differences, if there is more in common through work or fun or some other activity, the emotional impact of racial differences disappears entirely.

The first reaction is biological, the second is consciously human.

Of course there are plenty of people who make it a practice to continually draw attention to racial differences, and this is what perpetuates racism as a cultural force. The same goes for envy. It’s not unusual to see something that someone else has and desire it – as an impulse.

But the important thing, the question that fuels much of the drama of life because it cuts to the core of our conscious values and convictions, is what do we do with that initial impulse?

Do we hang onto it, indulge it, and follow it? Or do we take that impulse and transform it into useful action – in the case of envy, thinking of how we might earn the money to buy what we’d like, or use it to recognize something we may value, something we may admire in another person, and seek to develop those qualities in ourselves?

When I was playing water polo as a young man, there were moments when I was stricken with a wave of envy fighting for my position on the team. There could only be one starting goalkeeper, and once in awhile if I was behind I would catch myself feeling resentment toward the fellow I was vying with for that spot – who was also a very good friend.

That friendship (along with the fact that I knew better) was a godsend, because it kept a human connection, so it always brought me back very quickly from indulging in envy and refocusing on the task at hand: To play my very best, regardless of the circumstances.

We all want things. There’s nothing wrong with wanting things, it’s part of our nature; and to the degree that this desire spurs us on to be creative and productive, it can be a great force for good.

But when we see other people with the things that we want, whether it be tangible items like a nice car or home, or less tangible accomplishments like a career or a triumph or a happy life, then another element can invite itself in to our experience: A focus on the thing desired, and a weakening of the perception of the holder of that thing as human.

We also can be oblivious to what it took them to achieve what they have, which is another part of empathy.

Is there something that you want in your life? What do you need to do to earn that? Channel your desire into active, benevolent behavior that has integrity with your conscious values, principles, and priorities.

If you find yourself coveting what somebody else has, catch yourself, and remind yourself that envy is a passive, helpless stance. Think about what they must have done to get where they are, and see if you can find a way to earn what they have that you are drawn to.

If you find yourself enjoying somebody else’s loss, catch yourself, and remind yourself that nothing good can come of following that impulse, and open yourself to doing whatever your best is, while appreciating the best that others bring.

We have lots of feelings and impulses, and part of the challenge of life is mastering those feelings and impulses, and directing the expression of them toward what we value consciously. We can’t often choose our impulses, but we can choose whether and how we express them. That choice is the foundation of self-ownership and genuine happiness.

Just because we feel angry doesn’t mean that we have to strike somebody; just because we’re afraid doesn’t mean that we have to cower; just because we hurt doesn’t mean that we have to withdraw.

…and just because we like what somebody else has doesn’t mean that we have to indulge in envy.

There’s the key… time to open those doors.

About Dr. Joel Wade

Joel F. Wade, Ph.D. is the author of The Virtue of Happiness and Mastering Happiness. He is a marriage and family therapist and Life Coach who works with people around the world via phone and Skype. You can get a FREE Learning Optimism E-Course if you sign up at his website, www.drjoelwade.com, or visit his free Mastering Happiness Podcast

11 Habits That Have Been Changing My Life Lately
22Jan 2019
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Wanna know some simple little habits that have absolutely changed my life this year?

There are 11 of them, and I recently realized that since implementing these habits, my life has blossomed in ways I honestly couldn’t have even dreamed of just one year ago.

I feel more alive, more powerful, more clear and at peace with my life than ever before — and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt what has created this newfound sense of empowerment and abundance … and it all comes down to my daily habits.

You may notice that just about every one of these habits centers around the theme of self-care.

Well, that’s because I believe that self-care is sacred. It’s a spiritual act that protects and regenerates our precious power. And it’s usually the first thing that falls by the wayside when life gets busy or tough (which is precisely when we need it the most).

So these are the small daily actions that truly feed my soul. They make my personal field of energy and way of being SO BIG, SO TRUE and SO POWERFUL that no external circumstance (no matter how overwhelming or threatening it may seem) can throw me off balance (not without my permission anyway).

THESE ARE MY KEYS TO ABUNDANT LIVING, PASSIONATE CREATIVITY, AND DAILY FULFILLMENT.

Here are 11 habits that have completely changed my life this year:

1. Taking CBD

The most impactful habit I’ve implemented in 2018 has to be taking CBD daily. CBD has changed my life (and my husband’s life) in countless ways. From the more obvious benefits of curing inflammatory issues and chronic ear infections, to the more subtle benefits of elevated mood and thinking, heightened meditative states, and just generally feeling happier and more at ease… I believe that CBD has helped us literally raise our vibrational frequencies and start attracting the energies we truly desire in our lives.

When I say that I believe CBD is a miracle medicine, I mean it — not only for its ability to miraculously heal countless physical ailments (oftentimes regardless of what has been tried in the past), but also for its ability to multiply the miracles we seem to attract into our lives on a daily basis. This is obviously a very personal opinion and I’m sure not everyone will agree… but then again, this is my own list of life-changing habits :). And I put CBD at the very top. I highly recommend CBD to anyone who has been looking for a solution to anxiety, depression, inflammation and just about any other physical ailment (obviously listen to your own body, and check with your doctor if need be). You can learn more about it here if you’re interested.

2. Meditating Every Morning and Afternoon

Meditation would have gone at the very top of my list, except that it’s not really a new habit… it’s something I’ve been practicing for a few years now. However, this is the first year that I’ve fully committed to a daily meditation practice, and it has changed my life is unimaginable ways. The wonderful thing about meditation is that, while the benefits may seem subtle at first, they are tangible and far-reaching. They effect every area of our lives, because they put us in touch with the very core of who we are.

I meditate twice a day — for 15-20 minutes in the morning, and 15-20 minutes in the afternoon (three times if you count my 10-minute savasana at the end of yoga) — usually just after taking my dose of CBD, and it is the single most powerful practice in my life. I will say, that morning meditations are so much harder for me, but when I do them, they make my afternoon meditations simply divine. Each time we sit down and commit to getting present with ourselves, it compounds the effects later on. So even if you don’t feel like anything is happening, stick with it! The whole-life benefits are tangible and profound, even if they only feel very subtle at first.

3. Drinking a Gallon of Water

One day, a few months ago, I woke up and felt incredibly dehydrated. My whole body felt brittle and achy, my skin was drier than usual, and I didn’t feel like I was operating at my optimal level physically. I decided to up my water intake, and committed to drinking around a gallon everyday for a week. For me, this looks like 4-5 full water bottles a day (each bottle is 25 ounces). After just one day I couldn’t believe how much better I felt when I woke up the next morning. After a week, my skin was more beautiful than ever before, and I had an abundance of energy. It made such a huge, tangible difference that I stuck with it and have been drinking almost a gallon of water every single day. I’ve always been pretty good about staying hydrated, and water is the only thing I ever drink anyway… but being intentional about drinking a specific amount of water each day has been truly life changing.

4. Reading at Night

My husband and I love TV. He studied film in college and has been making movies since he could hold a camera, and his love for cinema has spread through our entire family. But for me, there is a noticeable difference in the quality of my energy when I watch TV before bed at night vs when I read a book. Either way I’m lying down and relaxing, but I’m using my brain completely differently (not to mention staring at a screen that’s sending blue light signals to my brain, which has been proven to throw our body rhythms completely off balance). Watching TV generally leaves me feeling like I’m wide awake and in need of true rest, whereas reading leaves me feeling genuinely rested and delightfully sleepy (not to mention inspired!).

5. Spending Time in Nature Every Single Day

If you haven’t heard the benefits of the simple practice of Earthing, I highly recommend you check it out. After I deepened my research on the subject this summer, I made it a daily habit to get outside and walk / lay directly on the Earth with my bare skin for 5-15 minutes a couple times a day. And WOW I cannot believe the difference such a simple practice makes! Even on the most tense and draining days, there is nothing more powerful to bring me back to a palpable sense of wellbeing and homeostasis in my body than making contact with the Earth (especially if I’ve been staring at a screen for hours). Try it today, you’ll be amazed at the difference it makes!

6. Conscious Movement

This habit isn’t new — but it’s one that I simply couldn’t imagine life without. Every single day, in one form or another, I connect with my body consciously. For me, the act of dropping out of my head and into my body space is deeply healing. Some days I need a linear approach, like yoga or running, and others I need more of an intuitive, body-led approach, so I dance freely. Sometimes I just stretch and breath consciously.

I find that how I’m moving in exercise is so similar to how I’m moving through life at any given time. The days I don’t move at all, I literally feel stuck. The days I have a beautiful, connected yoga or dance practice are filled with more magic, wonder, gratitude and abundance. And vice versa, if I feel stuck, all I have to do is move, and listen, and watch where it takes me. Conscious movement is my way of attuning myself (in body, mind and spirit) to the frequencies of the reality I truly want. And I’ll tell you… IT WORKS!

7. Doing Less

Here’s a powerful one that so many of us struggle with. Simplicity is something we all seem to yearn for, yet the act of simplifying feels arduous. Because to be simple costs what we have. You have to be willing to let go, and that’s something many of us struggle with. We hold on so tightly to our ideas about how things should be done, or the fact that they need to be done at all. I’m amazed at how seemingly effortless life becomes the moment we decide to value simplicity over complexity, and truly apply it to our daily life.

Everyday I look at my list of tasks and ask myself if there is a simpler, more joyful way that I can integrate them into the flow of my day (sometimes this means deleting them from my list completely!). There is always a better solution… we just have to be willing to loosen our grip and truly believe that it’s possible to live life more effortlessly, enjoyably, easily. This is a gift that only we can give ourselves.

8. No Phone in the Bedroom

This is such a simple thing, but for me it’s made a big difference. Somehow I had fallen into the habit of using my phone (and social media in particular) as my morning wake up tool. My alarm would go off, and my motivation for getting up would be consuming information on the internet for the first few minutes of my waking time. It was actually the health of my eyes that initially compelled me to stop looking at a bright screen in my dark room first thing upon waking, but I couldn’t believe the positive mental-emotional-energetic effects that followed.

It turns out that, when I look to my screen to consume information first thing upon waking, I am unconsciously cultivating a state-of-being that’s distracted, chaotic, and overwhelmed, before I’ve even gotten out of bed to start my day! When I wake without my phone, I can pay attention to my thoughts, my energy and the physical sensations of my body, and direct them toward the state of being I consciously want to create… one of gratitude, wellbeing, positivity, tranquility, and a sense of receptivity toward my day to come.

9. Visualizing

Along the same lines as above, this habit is all about consciously cultivating the state of being I want to exist within. I realize that every thought and feeling I have has a vibrational frequency, and is literally like casting a vote for a reality I am choosing (whether I’m choosing it consciously or unconsciously, it doesn’t matter), so it’s crucial that I choose my reality consciously. The simple act of spending a few minutes a day visualizing the outcome I will create in any specific circumstance, or a few minutes just before bed visualizing how tomorrow is going to feel emotionally to me is LIFE CHANGING in ways that simply cannot be expressed.

We are so much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for. We place limitations on what we believe is possible. It’s like when Alice in Wonderland says, “You know what the issue is with this world? Everyone wants a magic solution to their problems, yet everyone refuses to believe in magic.” We are MAGICAL beings who have the power to create our reality in every moment (indeed, we ARE creating our reality right this very moment, whether we’re aware of it or not). Visualization is a powerful way to harness your inherent magic with intention, and completely alter the course of your day, and your life.

10. Taking Salt Baths

Oh salt baths, how I love thee! I began this habit as a way to literally stay warm on cold winter days, and it is so healing and nourishing that I now can’t imagine my life without them. A simple 15-minute bubble bath with Epsom salts, candles, beautiful music, and (if weather allows) my windows open to create a glorious steam effect can do wonders to completely transform my state into a magical, sensual, sacred experience. It feels like such a gift to give myself, and I cherish every moment.

11. Drinking Tea Before Bed

Last but not least is our evening tea ritual. I started making my own tea blends a few years back and my nighttime tea is our absolute favorite sleepytime concoction. It’s a blend of chamomile, passionflower and lavender, and it is delightfully drowse-inducing. Every night my husband and I brew a pot and cuddle up on the couch to sip and read and talk and give each other food rubs, and it’s honestly my favorite time of the entire day. This is where I get to fully surrender the events of the day and let myself drift off into a state of deep relaxation, love and peace before falling into a sound sleep.

30 Affirmations to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams
15Jan 2019
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You have all the potential to create your dream life and manifest everything you’ve always wanted.

But the first (and perhaps most vital) step for manifesting the life of your dreams is to believe in yourself and your power with every cell in your body.

The art of manifesting is all about learning to believe something before it can be seen or proven.

It’s about knowing that what you want is already out there, and it wants you too… and that you have the power to bring it into your life.

Affirmations are like your wish list to the universe, experienced in real-time. They help reprogram and realign your subconscious mind with what you truly want to create. More…

11 Habits That Have Been Changing My Life Lately
18Dec 2018
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By: Jessi Kohlhagen

Wanna know some simple little habits that have absolutely changed my life this year?

There are 11 of them, and I recently realized that since implementing these habits, my life has blossomed in ways I honestly couldn’t have even dreamed of just one year ago.

I feel more alive, more powerful, more clear and at peace with my life than ever before — and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt what has created this newfound sense of empowerment and abundance … and it all comes down to my daily habits.

You may notice that just about every one of these habits centers around the theme of self-care.

Well, that’s because I believe that self-care is sacred. It’s a spiritual act that protects and regenerates our precious power. And it’s usually the first thing that falls by the wayside when life gets busy or tough (which is precisely when we need it the most).

So these are the small daily actions that truly feed my soul. They make my personal field of energy and way of being SO BIG, SO TRUE and SO POWERFUL that no external circumstance (no matter how overwhelming or threatening it may seem) can throw me off balance (not without my permission anyway).

THESE ARE MY KEYS TO ABUNDANT LIVING, PASSIONATE CREATIVITY, AND DAILY FULFILLMENT.

Here are 11 habits that have completely changed my life this year:

More…

Why Almost All New Years Resolutions Fail — And What To Do About It!
11Dec 2018
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It’s that time of year where millions of people are caught up in the same old goal setting frenzy…

They’re hoping to get their careers on track…
They’re hoping to finally lose that weight…
They’re hoping to get that raise or promotion…

Yet in a few short months from now, most of them will be no better off than when they started (one study even suggests that 80% of ALL New Year resolutions fail by February).

In this quick 2-minute video, I explain why almost all New Years resolutions are destined to fail, and offer a powerful alternative.

Watch the video below, and find out how you can take your most important goals to the next level by creating a clear and compelling vision for your entire life.

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Lifebook’s Annual Year-End Reflection Ceremony
05Dec 2018
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There’s something absolutely magical about this time of year: the twinkling lights, cozy fires, joyous cheer being spread by everyone, and perhaps most exciting of all, the anticipation of turning the page of our lives to a brand new chapter.

It’s a season of celebration, love, and self-reflection.

In honor of this magical time, we have a reflection ritual here at Lifebook that takes place every December.

Here’s how you can join us…

Light some candles, brew a cup of hot tea or pour a glass of champagne, get cozy by the fireside (perhaps with a loved one) and settle in for a few hours of deep reflection and openhearted honesty.

The ritual is done by answering simple questions, which are designed to call forth mighty truth, inspiration and growth from deep within you.

Enjoy this magical process, and make this New Year a beautiful expression of your wildest wishes and deepest dreams.

And as always, please take a moment share the love with us by commenting some of your favorite answers at the bottom of the post!

Click here to download these questions in Word Document format so you can complete the exercise and keep it in your Lifebook!

“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”

-Lao Tzu

Reflecting on 2018

What was your biggest triumph in 2018?

What was the smartest decision you made in 2018?

What one word or phrase best sums up and describes your 2018 experience?

What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2018?

What was the most loving service you performed in 2018?

What is your biggest piece of unfinished business in 2018?

What were the three most significant events of 2018?

Who were the three people that had the greatest impact on your life in 2018?

When did you feel most alive in 2018?

What was the biggest risk you took in 2018?

What was the biggest surprise in 2018?

What was your biggest failure in 2018?

What fears surfaced in your life in 2018?

What is one thing you can forgive yourself for in 2018?

What is one thing you can forgive another for 2018?

What was your biggest learning experience in 2018?

What will you vow to NEVER do again? Do more of?

What one area do you feel stuck in from 2018 that you would like to improve in the coming year?

Is there something from 2018 that you need to let go of?

What important relationships improved the most in 2018?

What compliment would you like to have received in 2018?

What compliment would you like to have given in 2018?

What else do you need to do or say to be complete with 2018?

Embarking into 2019

Review your Life Vision and your Annual Goals and then answer the following questions…

What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2019?

What advice do you give yourself going into 2019?

What is the major effort you are planning to improve about your financial results in 2019?

What would you be most happy about completing in 2019?

What indulgence are you willing to experience in 2019?

How can you be more open-minded, and open-hearted in 2019?

What are you most looking forward to learning in 2019?

If you knew you couldn’t fail, what would you attempt in 2019?

Regarding your work, what are you most committed to changing and improving in 2019?

What is one as yet undeveloped talent you are willing to explore in 2019?

What would you most like to change about yourself, personally, in 2019?

How can you fully nurture yourself first and foremost in 2019?

How can you stand up for yourself more in 2019?

How can you be kinder to yourself in 2019?

How will you move through your fears in 2019?

What currently brings you the most joy, and how are you going to do or have more of that in 2019?

Who or what (other than yourself or your family) are you most committed to loving and serving in 2019? How will you do it?

What one word / phrase will be your prayer, intention or theme in 2019?

47 Affirmations to Energize Your Career
26Nov 2018
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Where you are today is a result of everything you chose to believe in your past.

Where you will be tomorrow is a result of everything you choose to believe today.

So ask yourself…                 

What do you believe about your career, as it is now?

What are the thoughts and feelings that come up when you think about your work?

Are you ready to take conscious control of these beliefs, thoughts and feelings, to create the most empowered, impactful, fulfilling career imaginable — using everything you have in this very moment??

Harness the power of affirmations every day this month, and you will magnetize extraordinary new energy into your career and your life!

Here are 47 Affirmations to Energize Your Life’s Work:

Amazing opportunities exist for me in every aspect of my life

As I follow my heart, I discover my destiny.

All my actions are in perfect harmony with my purpose.

Each day I see my life’s purpose more clearly.

Every day I find more ways to contribute to the greater good.

Every day I follow my bliss.

Every day I further my life’s work.

I am creating a life of passion and purpose.

I am forever motivated and inspired by my life’s work.

I am true to my own path.

I say in my own lane, and honor the pace of growth in my own career and life.

“I can not do everything, but I can do something. I must not fail to do the something that I can do.” – Helen Keller

There aren’t any problems that don’t have solutions.

“EVERYTHING is figureoutable.” –Marie Forleo

I awake each morning with gratitude for all that I get to do.

I have found my niche in the world.

I make a positive difference in the lives of others.

I love what I do.

I “work to become, not to acquire.” – Elbert Hubbard

I am so grateful to have the opportunity to create value in this world through my daily work.

I am creating the career of my dreams.

Amazing opportunities are appearing in my life out of nowhere.

I have unlimited potential, only good lies before me.

The joy I find in my career is reflected in my overall happiness.

I am appreciated and rewarded well wherever I work.

I am opening my consciousness to a greater prosperity and part of that prosperity is an increased salary.

I am deeply fulfilled by all that I do.

It’s not what I do, but how I do it… I treat every task as an opportunity to create more beauty, abundance and joy.

How I do anything is how I do everything.

My unique creative talents and abilities flow through me and are expressed in deeply satisfying ways.

I feel the fear and do it anyway.

I am grateful for the discomfort of growing in my career, as I expand myself to create all that I’ve wished for.

“The best way to predict my future is to create it.” – Abraham Lincoln

I have everything I need to create my own opportunities.

I am confident radiating who I am in all situations

My mistakes do not define me or dictate my future success.

I have the courage to go after what I truly want

Everyday, I tap into more of my potential

I unselfishly share my gifts with the world and give others permission to do the same.

I choose community over competition in my work and my life.

I am fully myself and completely authentic in my career.

I manifest unexpected opportunities every day because I am aligned with my calling.

Harmony permeates my experience, and my work flows in productive and joyful ways.

I serve others willingly, gladly and gratefully.

I am inspired, creative and productive.

I am calm and comfortable speaking in front of others. I have confidence in myself, and I relate easily with others.

I truly believe that humans exist to bless and prosper each other. I reflect this belief in my daily interactions – Louise Hay

16 Must-Read Books to Ignite Your Career
12Nov 2018
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Wanna know one of the quickest and easiest ways to take your career to the next level?

READ MORE BOOKS!

Reading books (or listening to audiobooks) is one of the single best investments you can make in your entire life (career included)!

With this in mind we’ve gathered together a list of our favorite, most life-changing books in the career category.

If you’re looking to really go the extra mile this month (in work AND in life), pick up one of these books and get inspired!

Now we’d love to know… What’s on your reading list in the career category?

Leave your recommendations for us in the comments below!

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap… and Others Don’t
By: Jim Collins

Over the course of five years, the author’s team analyzed the histories of twenty-eight “good-to great” companies. After sifting through mountains of data, Collins and his crew discovered the key determinants of greatness – why some companies make the leap and others don’t.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Execution: The Discipline of Getting Things Done
By: Larry Bossidy and Ram Charan

Whether you’re running an entire company, in your first management job, or just looking to step up your effectiveness… this book will show you how to get the job done and deliver powerful results.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Lovemarks: The Future Beyond Brands
By: Kevin Roberts

This groundbreaking book injects a powerful dose of vision and emotion into the world of marketing and advertising, and celebrates the central role design plays in creating emotional connection with consumers.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Die Empty: Unleash Your Best Work Everyday
By: Todd Henry

Die Empty is a tool for people who aren’t willing to put off their most important work for one more day. The author explains the forces that lead to stagnation, and introduces powerful practices that will keep you on a true and steady course toward fulfilling your soul calling.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Leadership
By: Stephen R. Covey

Dr. Covey’s book is one of the most inspiring and impactful books ever written. Discover critical lessons about the habits of successful people, and find out how you can easily apply them to enrich your entire life’s experience.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

The Four-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich
By: Timothy Ferris

Whether your dream is escaping the rat race, experiencing high-end world travel, or earning a monthly five-figure income with zero management, The 4-Hour Workweek is the blueprint.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

The One Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results
By: Gary Keller and Jay Papasan

You want LESS (fewer distractions, commitments and stress)… and your want MORE (productivity, income and fulfillment)! This book shows us how we can have BOTH, by learning to master what matters most and focus on the ONE thing.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

How to Win Friends and Influence People: The Only Book You Need to Lead You to Success
By: Dale Carnegie

This classic book has carried countless people up the ladder of success, and will show you how to take any situation (or relationship) and make it work for you! Get ready to make life-changing connections and achieve your maximum potential.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work and What to Do About It
By: Michael E. Gerber

Grow your business in a predictable and profitable way by dispelling the most common myths, and avoiding the assumptions that can get in the way of running your business with this eye-opening read.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

The Lean Startup: How Today’s Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses
By: Eric Ries

Most startups fail. But many of those failures are preventable.  The Lean Startup is a new approach being adopted across the globe, changing the way companies are built and new products are launched.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion and Purpose
By: Tony Hsieh and Rob Ten Pas

Written by Zappos CEO Tony Hsieh, Delivering Happiness shows how a very different kind of corporate culture is a powerful model for achieving success-and how by concentrating on the happiness of those around you, you can dramatically increase your own.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
By: Greg McKeown

The Way of the Essentialist isn’t about getting more done in less time. It’s about getting only the right things done. It is not a time management strategy, or a productivity technique. It is a systematic discipline for discerning what is absolutely essential, then eliminating everything that is not, so we can make the highest possible contribution towards the things that really matter.

Click here to purchase your copy today.

Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALS Lead and Win
By: Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

Detailing the mindset and principles that enable SEAL units to accomplish the most difficult combat missions, Extreme Ownership demonstrates how to apply them to any team or organization, in any leadership environment.

Be sure to check out this month’s LifeNote on Extreme Ownership too!

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Outliers: The Story of Success
By: Malcolm Gladwell

In this stunning book, Malcolm Gladwell takes us on an intellectual journey through the world of “outliers”–the best and the brightest, the most famous and the most successful. He asks (and answers) the question: what makes high-achievers different?

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Steve Jobs
By: Walter Isaacson

Based on more than forty interviews Jobs conducted over two years, Walter Isaacson has written a riveting story of the roller-coaster life and searingly intense personality of a creative entrepreneur whose passion for perfection and ferocious drive revolutionized six industries.

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Do The Work: Overcome Resistance and Get Out of Your Own Way
By: Steven Pressfield and Seth Godin

Could you be getting in your way of producing great work? Have you started a project but never finished? Would you like to do work that matters, but don’t know where to start? The answer is Do the Work, a manifesto that will show you that it’s not about better ideas… it’s about actually doing the work.

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Expand Your Self-Awareness: A 2-Week Sentence Completion Program (FREE)
09Nov 2018
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Back by popular demand, Lifebook is featuring one of our all-time favorite practices in awareness…

Dr. Nathaniel Branden’s 2-week Sentence Completion Program (FREE).

Click here to download the document now.

Increase self-awareness and improve your self-esteem in just 2 short weeks with Dr. Nathaniel Branden’s free transformational sentence completion program.

Sentence completion is easy – you receive a handful of unfinished sentences, and you complete them yourself to deepen your awareness.

Sentence-completion work is a deceptively simple, yet uniquely powerful tool for raising consciousness, self-understanding, self-esteem, and personal effectiveness.

It rests on the premise that all of us have more knowledge than we are normally aware of, more wisdom than we use, more potential than typically shows up in our behavior. Sentence completion is a tool for accessing and activating these “hidden resources.”

And that is exactly what Lifebook Member Dr. Nathaniel Branden helps us do with his transformational 2-week sentence completion program.

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Why “Good Enough” Never Is
06Nov 2018
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“How you do anything is how you do everything.”
-T. Harv Eker

Whether it’s in work or in life, “how you do anything is how you do everything.”

What we believe T. Harv Eker meant when he spoke these wise words is this…

Every task, every job, every chore, every interaction is another opportunity for you to express all that you are — to convey your values, practice your virtues, and radiate out into the world that which you love most.

For this reason, “good enough” never truly is enough for Lifebook Members, especially when it comes to our life’s work.

Taking the easy way out, though tempting at times, ultimately means compromising our deepest values and missing out on life-changing opportunities to align ourselves with what we want most in life — which (for most Lifebookers) is to realize our extraordinary potential!

Let’s take a look at this visual representation of what it looks like to move from ORDINARY to EXTRAORDINARY in your career…

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Now let’s take a deeper look at some of our favorite concepts in the chart:

Always Being Asked vs. Anticipating Needs Before They Arise

Whether it’s your employer, customer, spouse, friend or child… When you can anticipate the unexpressed needs/wishes of those around you, and then take action to exceed their expectatations, you provide an unexpected and delightful experience and make a loud statement that you care. You prove yourself to be conscious, self-responsible, inuitive and committed. And ultimately, you manifest greater opportunities for your own personal and professional growth.

Doing Bare Minimum (or just enough) vs. Giving It EVERYTHING I’ve Got

If you’re looking to coast along with a mediocre offering so you can make it to a mediocre retirement, then by all means, do the bare minimum. But if you want to create passion, excitement and prosperity (in your life, and the lives of others) you’re going to need to step outside your comfort zone, push yourself to learn, grow and expand, and work toward something bigger. Instead of remaining stagnant and doing bare minimum (and then complaining about how you feel stuck), generate your own positive energy and spread it out to those around you.

Waiting For Approval vs. Proving Value Through Results

Grace Hopper said, “It’s better to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission.” You have the power to create extraordinary results, but only if you take action. And there’s nothing employers love to see more than their team taking deliberate action to create powerful results — even if it does mean blazing your own trail from time to time.

Being Professional vs. Being Passionately Creative

The time for soulless corporate professionalism is coming to an end, and a new era of passionate, soulful, TURNED ON creativity is taking its place. Now more than ever, the world needs vibrant, uplifted, liberated free-thinkers who are living 12-category smart lives and making an impact on the world simply with the energy of their thoughts, feelings, actions and contributions.

Criticizing Problems vs. Offering Valuable Solutions

“It’s better to create something that others criticize than to create nothing and criticize others.” Instead of directing your energy unconsiously, by complaining, criticizing, and giving your power away — turn the situation around, and consciously direct your energy toward positive, all-inclusive, creative and inspiring solutions.

Generic Interactions vs. Providing Personal Depth

Now more than ever people are seeking authentic human interactions – connectiong with others that feel geniune, down to earth, and deeply real. We all yearn to truly relate with each other in ways that empower, inspire and connect us to something greater than ourselves… and most people can smell fake from a mile away. Every social interaction you have is another chance for you to show up more fully as your true yourself — more accepting, more present, more receptive, more whole. This level of personal depth is moving and deeply affecting to others, and it has the power to completely shift the energy of any situation you walk into.

Creation vs. Innovation

In these exponential times, it’s not enough to simply do, make or create… if we want to set ourselves apart from the rest we must learn to innovate. We must learn to fall in love with experimenting, and find exciting new ways to do things. It’s time to take your creativity to the next level — into extraordinary, revolutionary, fearless cutting-edge works of art (no matter what industry you’re in).

So ask yourself…

Are you doing just “good enough” when it comes to your career?

Which lines in the chart spoke the loudest to you, and how can you implement them in your own career/life?

How can you move from ordinary to extraordinary in your career this month??

Share your answers with us in the comments.

And as always, thank you so much for reading VIPS, and being endlessly committed to realizing your own extraordinary potential!