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How to Build Community: 47 Simple Ways
18Sep 2018

Are you searching for your dream tribe of extraordinary soul-friends?

We all yearn for the deep sense of belonging and wellbeing that can only come from being an integral part of a larger community.

Yet when it comes to actually finding or creating community, many of us are left scratching our heads wondering how on earth people do it.

This begs the question…

How can we consciously create our dream community, and our greater vision for our social lives?

And while there are countless social strategies, tips and tricks you can explore, we hope this sweet & simple article serves as a reminder of three powerful social premises:

1. Extraordinary relationships require you to be an extraordinary individual first (you have to create what you want to be a part of)
2. You can always grow, right where you’re planted
3. Making friends is often so much simpler than we make it out be

At Lifebook, we believe that cultivating conscious community is not only possible for everyone — it’s a vital part of human health, happiness and life success. More…

Lifebook Loves: Burning Man!
14Sep 2018

Somewhere in the middle of the impossibly flat, life-less and visually stunning deserts of northwest Nevada, a small group of amazing humans construct an entire city for 80,000 people… And then, it disappears without a trace less than 30 days later.

This year marked our first-ever Burning Man experience… and we were absolutely blown away.

Burning Man attracts artists, musicians and dreamers from every corner of the globe for a week of awe-inspiring, soul-stirring, mind-expanding artistry, self-expression and love.

Simply put, Burning Man is the most extravagant display of human creativity and potential that we’ve ever encountered (and that’s saying a lot!)

One of the most fascinating parts of the experience was that it’s a completely non-commercial event — which means no buying, selling, branding, or marketing of any kind. Everything is 100% FREE and gifted with love from members of the community.

We’ve never witnessed such a joyful display of experiences that lift the human spirit, address social problems and inspire a sense of culture, community and personal engagement.

If this is something you feel called to, you may want to consider experiencing it at least once in a lifetime!

See below for some of our favorite moments from our 2018 Burning Man experience (photo credit to our dear friend and fellow Lifebooker, the incredibly talented Warwick Saint).

And you can click here to learn more about this incredible event.

As always, thank you so much for reading and sharing our journey!

With all our love,

-Jon and Missy Butcher











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How CBD Will Change Your Life
11Sep 2018

CBD seems to be a big buzzword these days. From tinctures and vape oils to skincare products and bath bombs, it seems like everything is infused with this new “miracle medicine.”

So what exactly is CBD, and what makes it so amazing?

CBD is short for Cannabidiol, which is a compound found in cannabis plants. There are over 100 different cannabinoids found within the plant (THC being the most famous for its ability to get you “high”).

Unlike THC, CBD has no psychoactive effects, is 100% legal, and is currently revolutionizing the world of medicine as we know it.

CBD is truly one of the most remarkable compounds in the natural world.

According to research, cannabinoids synergize and help support humans’ built-in Endocannabinoid System (ECS). It was in 1992 that scientists discovered that the ECS plays a direct role in homeostasis, which regulates every metabolic process in the body, such as pain sensation, appetite, temperature regulation, stress reactivity, immune function, and sleep, as well as other processes. Even more interesting is that muscle and fat tissue also utilize these receptors to control their processes.

So basically, CBD communicates with our body’s main command center to keep things running as they should. Pretty amazing.

Claim Your Power by Taking the High Road
11Sep 2018

By Jessi Kohlhagen

We’ve all experienced the weight of regret after reacting impulsively to a challenging situation.

In the heat of the moment we’re often compelled to do or say things that feel necessary or satisfying at the time, only to look back and agonize over the fact that we made a bad situation much worse with our carelessness.

We’ve all experienced the other side of the coin as well, and felt the glory, grace and liberation that comes from taking the high road.

But what, exactly, does it mean to “take the high road?”

As Laura Markham so eloquently puts it…

“The high road is love. The low road is fear. Always choose love, as often as you can.” More…

How To Build Community: 47 Simple Ways
03Sep 2018
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Are you searching for your dream tribe of extraordinary soul-friends?

We all yearn for the deep sense of belonging and wellbeing that can only come from being an integral part of a larger community.

Yet when it comes to actually finding or creating community, many of us are left scratching our heads wondering how on earth people do it.

This begs the question…

How can we consciously create our dream community, and our greater vision for our social lives?

And while there are countless social strategies, tips and tricks you can explore, we hope this sweet & simple article serves as a reminder of three powerful social premises:

  1. Extraordinary relationships require you to be an extraordinary individual first (you have to create what you want to be a part of)
  2. You can always grow, right where you’re planted
  3. Making friends is often so much simpler than we make it out be

At Lifebook, we believe that cultivating conscious community is not only possible for everyone — it’s a vital part of human health, happiness and life success.

We’d love to know… what simple ways do you connect with your community?

Leave your own strategies in the comments at the bottom of this post!

Here are 47 Simply Ways to Build Community

  1. Turn off your TV and put down your phone
  2. Leave your house
  3. Release the fear of being yourself (totally and truly!)
  4. Know your neighbors
  5. Always give warm welcomes
  6. Look up when you’re walking
  7. Greet people
  8. Look into people’s eyes
  9. Hang out on your stoop
  10. Talk to other parents at the park
  11. Plant a community garden
  12. Use your local library (or start a book lending cupboard!)
  13. Start a tool lending library
  14. Play together on the front lawn
  15. Host a backyard movie night
  16. Buy from local merchants
  17. Create a neighborhood social media page
  18. Share what you have
  19. Pick up your neighbors fallen trash can
  20. Take children to the park
  21. Support neighborhood schools
  22. Fix it even if you didn’t break it
  23. Have pot lucks
  24. Honor elders
  25. Pick up litter
  26. Read stories out loud
  27. Dance in the street
  28. Talk to the mail carrier
  29. Listen to the birds
  30. Put up a swing
  31. Help carry something heavy
  32. Shovel your neighbor’s sidewalk when it snows (especially if it’s difficult for them)
  33. Share small neighborhood gifts during the holidays
  34. Barter for your goods
  35. Start a tradition
  36. Give back with community service
  37. Learn from others by asking questions
  38. Hire young people for odd jobs
  39. Organize a block party
  40. Bake extra and share
  41. Ask for help when you need it
  42. Open your shades
  43. Sing together
  44. Share your skills
  45. Mediate a conflict
  46. Seek to understand
  47. Learn to be present in new and uncomfortable situations
50 Affirmations to Become the Parent You Want to Be
20Aug 2018
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Do you wish to bring a greater sense of calm, presence, ease and intention to your parenting?

If you’re like 99.9% of parents, your answer is probably “YES!”

Parenting is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences in the world… and the goal of becoming extraordinary parents is really a moving target, as our families (and us and individuals) are constantly changing and growing.

Becoming the parent we truly want to be entails constant awareness, real-time presence, and intention.

Lucky for us, there’s ONE powerful practice we can utilize to tune ourselves into this state, no matter what’s going on in our lives.

Yep, you guessed it…

Affirmations are one of the easiest and most powerful ways to align ourselves in mind, body and spirit with the greater vision for our families.

Below are 50 affirmations to help inspire the parent you want to be.

As always, please share your own affirmations with us by commenting at the bottom of this post! 🙂

  1. I am so grateful to be a mother/father to my children
  2. Today I will do my absolute best, and know in my hear that that is enough
  3. My children don’t want “perfect” they just want me
  4. I am the calm in the chaos
  5. This too will pass.
  6. Love, love, and love some more
  7. I’m so grateful my children chose me to be their mother/father
  8. It’s okay to take care of myself and my own needs / wants / desires
  9. It’s okay to ask for help
  10. I treasure my children as the unique individuals they are
  11. Our home is a safe, peaceful, comforting haven
  12. Today I will release the expectations I have of my children, and fully embrace what they already are
  13. All of my choices as a mother are led by love, not fear
  14. I honor my children’s feelings and embrace all sides of their experience equally
  15. I am demonstrating to my children what it means to live a joyful, passionate, fulfilling life
  16. I set an amazing example for my children
  17. I am always willing to learn and grow as a parent
  18. My partner and I are on the same page with how we are raising our children, and I am so grateful for his/her support
  19. Every day I am living in alignment with my deepest parenting values
  20. I am a healthy and vibrant mother/father
  21. Everyday I take time for my own needs. This supports me in being the best parent I can be
  22. I am not afraid of change, and make changes easily when it’s the best option for my family
  23. When something is out of balance in the family, I find solutions quickly, easily and gracefully
  24. I teach my children to love and respect their bodies
  25. We have so much fun in our family
  26. I am grateful that we take so much time to play and enjoy our lives together as a family
  27. I approach challenging parenting situations with calmness, respect, clarity and strength… and honor my child even while disciplining
  28. My children and I respect each other equally
  29. I am blessed with added patience when things feel out of control
  30. I am a good listener, and listening to my children is a priority in my life, even when the things they say may feel unimportant
  31. I love to say “tell me more”
  32. I am grateful for how much cooperation we experience as a family
  33. I understand that my child is a separate individual, and I give them to space and freedom to express that individuality, even if I don’t always agree with it
  34. I express love, tenderness and affection for my children every day, as often as I can
  35. The greatest gift I can give my children is my full presence and attention
  36. I am here in this present moment with kindness, love, wonder and curiosity
  37. Rather than reacting, I choose my parenting behaviors with consciousness and intention
  38. This moment will not last forever, and someday I will wish I could travel back in time to experience the beauty and joy of what I have right now. I will cherish it all while it lasts.
  39. When our lives turn to chaos whirling all around me, I slow down, tune in, and listen to my breath.
  40. I am calm and at centered. Nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
  41. I am my child’s greatest teacher, and my child is my greatest teacher. In this way, we are meant for each other.
  42. I say YES as often as possible to my child’s interests, passions and curiosities
  43. I trust my intuition to make intentional parenting choices and decisions.
  44. Today I will find peace in being good enough
  45. Everything I do serves a purpose for me and my family
  46. I am the exact parent my child needs to blossom so I don’t need to compare myself to others.
  47. MI know my family loves and appreciated me, even when they forget to tell me
  48. One bad day does not make me a bad parent. One bad day makes me human.
  49. Taking care of myself is a responsibility I will model to my children without guilt.
  50. I have been called to parenthood – the most powerful calling in the world
Understand Your Love Language
14Aug 2018
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Everyone communicates love in different ways, so understanding each other’s specific love language may be beneficial to your relationship. According to Gary Chapman, Ph.D., author of “The Five Love Languages,” once you and your partner have identified with one of the five languages, you both will feel most loved when that language is expressed and gain the satisfaction of making each other happy.

Before continuing into the descriptions of each love language, we recommend that you take the free online test to determine which love language you are.

Click here to take the test now, or scroll to the bottom of this article for a shorter 60-second quiz.

Words of Affirmation

Words speak louder than actions if you receive love through words of affirmation. You feel most loved when your partner verbally expresses the reasons behind his or her love for you and unsolicited compliments replay in your head all day. Conversely, negative words or insults can damage your spirit and they are not easily forgotten.

To communicate this love language, do not let days go by without saying, “I love you” and verbally acknowledge anything that makes you happy to be with your partner.

If your partner’s love language is Words of Affirmation you could:

1. Set a goal to give your partner a different compliment each day for a month.
“You did a great job on this meal.”
“You really look nice in that outfit.”
“I really appreciate your washing the car.”

2. Write a love letter, a love paragraph, or a love sentence to your partner, and give it quietly or without fanfare.

3. Compliment your partner in the presence of his parents or friends. You will get double credit. Your spouse will feel loved and the parents will feel lucky to have such a great son-in-law or daughter-in-law.

4. Look for your partner’s strengths and tell how much you appreciate those strengths. Chances are she will work hard to live up to her reputation.

5. Tell your children how great their mother or father is. Do this both behind your partner’s back and in their presence.

6. Choose a card that expresses how you feel. Underline special words and add a few of your own at the end.


Quality Time

Full and undivided attention makes you feel most loved if quality time is your love language. Spending time with your partner can mean staying in and watching movies or having good conversations over a gourmet dinner. When your partner makes time for you, he or she is communicating that you are more important than any other activity.

To communicate this language, do not cancel plans or postpone dates as these actions are hurtful and may cause your partner to question your love.

If your partner’s love language is Quality Time you could:

1. Ask your partner for a list of five activities that he would enjoy doing with you. Make plans to do one of them each month for the next five months.

2. Make time every day to share with each other some of the events of the day.

3. Plan a weekend getaway just for the two of you sometime within the next few months. Focus on relaxing together doing what one or both of you enjoy.

4. Take a walk together through the old neighborhood where one of you grew up. Ask questions about your partner’s childhood.

5. Think of an activity your partner enjoys, but which brings little pleasure to you: football, symphony etc. Tell your partner that you are trying to broaden your horizons and would like join her in this activity sometime this month. Set a date and give it your best effort. Ask questions about the activity at break times.

6. Camp out by the fireplace. Spread your blankets and pillows on the floor. Pretend the TV is broken and talk like you used to when you were dating.


Receiving Gifts

This love language is more about thoughtfulness and the remembrance of important dates than it is about materialism. The entire process behind buying the gift makes you feel loved. The fact that your partner took time to drive to the store, pondered the perfect purchase and spent money to make you happy are things that make you feel most loved. Gifts also can come in the form of gestures such as love notes or phone calls to simply say, “How was your day?”

To communicate this language, give a thoughtful gift on each anniversary, holiday and birthday.

If your partner’s love language is Receiving Gifts you could:

1. Give your partner a gift every day for one week. It need not be a special week, just any week. It will become “The Week That Was!”

2. Discover the value of “handmade originals.”

3. Keep a “Gift Idea Notebook”. Every time you hear your partner say “I really like that,” write it down. Listen carefully and you will get quite a list.

4. If you really don’t have a clue as to how to select a gift for your partner, ask a friend or family member who knows them well.

5. Give a living gift. Purchase and plant a tree or flowering shrub in honor of your partner.


Acts of Service

Vacuuming, washing the dishes or performing maintenance on your vehicle are all romantic gestures if your love language is acts of service. You feel most loved when your partner recognizes your stress and helps to lighten your load. To communicate this language, pitch in without being condescending or dominant and take initiative to help when your see that your partner is stressed. Laziness or adding to the workload expresses your lack of concern and may be destructive to your relationship.

If your partner’s love language is Acts of Service you could:

1. Make a list of all the requests your partner has made of you over the last few weeks. Select one of these each week and do it as an expression of love.

2. Cut out some heart-shaped note cards and print the following:
“Today I will show my love for you by …”
Complete the sentence with one of the following: mowing the lawn, vacuuming the floor, washing dishes, taking the dog for a walk etc.

3. If you have more money than time, hire someone to do the acts of service that you know your partner would like for you to do. If you take the responsibility for getting it done, you will be speaking love even when you are away.

4. Ask your partner to tell you the daily acts of service that would really speak love to him or her. These might include such things as putting your dirty clothes in the hamper, hanging up your clothes at night, preparing a meal, and washing the dishes. “Little things” really do mean a lot.

5. Periodically ask your partner, “If I could do one special act of service this week, what would you request?” If possible, do it and watch your partner’s love tank fill up!

Physical Touch

Physical touch does not always have to be communicated through sex. Holding hands, thoughtful touches on the arm and hugs are all ways to communicate love to your partner. Touching is a nonverbal communication style that can express love, concern, adoration and care. To communicate through touch, discover how your partner likes to be touched and act on it. Avoid neglect or physical abuse as these actions are often unforgivable.

If your partner’s love language is Physical Touch you could:

1. Hold hands as you walk.

2. While eating together, let your knee or foot drift over and touch your partner.

3. While your partner is seated, walk up behind them and initiate a shoulder massage.

4. When family or friends are visiting, touch your partner in their presence. A hug, running your hand along his or her arm, or simply placing a hand on their shoulder can earn double emotional points. It says, “Even with all these people in our home, I still see you.”

5. Walk up to your partner and say, “Have I told you lately that I love you?” Take her in your arms and hug her while you rub her back and continue. “You are the greatest!” (Resist the temptation to rush to the bedroom.) Untangle yourself and move on to the next thing.

The 60-Second Quiz

For each pair of following statements, circle the one that fits you best within your relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were. Or think about how you like to be treated by family members and close friends.

1. I like to receive encouraging or affirming notes A
I like to be hugged E

2. I like to spend one-to-one time with close friends B
I feel loved when someone gives me practical help D

3. I like it when people give me gifts C
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones B

4. I feel loved when people do things to help me D
I feel loved when people give me a reassuring hand shake or hug E

5. I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me E
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I admire or love C

6. I like to go places with friends or loved ones B
I like to high-five or slap around with friends who are special to me E

7. Visible symbols of love (such as gifts) are important to me C
I feel loved when people affirm me A

8. I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around E
I like it when people tell me I’m attractive/handsome A

9. I like to spend time with friends and loved ones B
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones C

10. Words of acceptance are important to me A
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me D

11. I like being together and doing things with friends & loved ones B
I like it when kind words are spoken to me A

12. What someone does affects me far more than what they say D
Hugs make me feel connected and valued E

13. I value praise and try to avoid criticism A
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift C

14. I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together B
I feel closer to friends & loved ones when we wrestle, hug or shake hands E

15. I like for people to complement my achievements A
I know people love me when they do things for me they don‟t enjoy doing D

16. I like for people to cross the street to shake hands or hug when they see me E
I like when people listen to me & show genuine interest in what I‟m saying B

17. I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects D
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones C

18. I like for people to complement my appearance A
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings B

19. I feel secure when a special person is physically close to me E
Acts of service make me feel loved D

20. I appreciate the many things that special people do for me D
I like to receive gifts that special people make for me C

21. I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention B
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does some act to serve me D

22. I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift C
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words A

23. I know a person is thinking of me when they give me a gift C
I feel loved when a person helps me with my chores or tasks D

24. I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me B
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift C

25. I like knowing loved ones are concern enough to help with my daily tasks D
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me B

26. I don’t mind the “kiss-hello‟ with friends I am close to E
Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me C

27. I like to be told that I am appreciated A
I like for a person to look at me when they are talking B

28. Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me C
I feel good when a friend or loved one hugs or touches me E

29. I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested D
I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated A

30. I need physical contact with people everyday E
I need words of encouragement and affirmation everyday A

Now go through your quiz again and count how many “A, B, C, D and Es” you circled and place the number in below.


A: ________ B: ________ C: ________ D: ________ E: ________

Which letter has your highest score? That is your primary love language:

•A = Words of Affirmation

•B = Quality Time

•C = Receiving Gifts

•D = Acts of Service

•E = Physical Touch

5 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Kids Do
14Aug 2018
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In an age of overwhelming concern over child safety, Gever Tulley is breaking all the rules.

Nowadays, parents believe their child is so vulnerable — to injury, to teasing, to disease and disappointment — that they hover like a helicopter over their children, ready to swoop in if anything remotely “bad” happens.

Tulley, founder of San Francisco’s Tinkering School, finds this approach to interacting with our children to be disempowering, to say the least.

And in his recent TED Talk, he spells out 5 dangerous things you should actually encourage your kids to do.

Because, as we’re about to find out — a little danger is good for both kids and grownups. More…

Protected: Category 13 Movie
02Aug 2018
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7 Secrets for Staying in Love (MP3)
10Jul 2018
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“Love is the tough, essential answer to the riddle of human existence, of human wholeness and happiness. To live is to love.”
-John Powell

Discover seven profound secrets for staying in love in this audio episode, based on John Powell’s book “The Secret of Staying in Love,” presented by Jessi Kohlhagen.

Click here to download the audio (right click player and “Save As”) More…