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6 Ways Partner Meditation Will Deepen Your Intimacy
31Jul 2017
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Written by Jessi Kohlhagen

Let’s face it… it’s incredibly easy for couples to get out of tune with each other.

All it takes is a busy schedule, a stressful day, or a resistant response, and suddenly you can feel like you’re a million miles apart.

The good news is there are countless strategies for nurturing your love relationship and keeping each other close. And one of the most powerful strategies of all is partner meditation.

Partner meditation provides an incredible way for you and your beloved to tune in to one another.

By taking a few minutes to meditate with your partner each day, you can strengthen your connection, deepen your intimacy, and get to know each other on a whole new level.

And it doesn’t take thousands of dollars, hours of time and energy, or days of planning.

All it requires are a few minutes of simple silence and gentle presence.

Ready to discover the power for yourself?

Here are 6 Ways Partner Meditation Will Transform Your Love Relationship:

Heightened Intuition

Meditation has countless positive benefits, but one of the most powerful of all is the deepening of awareness. As we become more aware, we tune into the subtler fluctuations occurring all around us. When couples meditate together, they develop a more refined sense of intuition, which allows them to see and feel the subtler layers in their exchanges. This puts them more in tune with each other and ultimately leads to a deeper felt sense of who their loved one is deep down, and what their needs are in any given moment.

Physical and Energetic Attunement

When we meditate with others, we bring our bodies physically close together, we share a common intention, and we drop into a deeper space within. In this space, our brain waves and energetic frequencies begin to harmonize. This helps to integrate and balance our mental, physical, emotional and energetic bodies with our partner, to create a greater sense of balance, unity and harmony.

More Compassionate Understanding

Meditation can drop us into deep states of inner peace, where we can experience unparalleled feelings of relaxation, openness and ease. From this inner place, compassionate understanding becomes so much easier than if we are feeling tense, closed, or defensive. As meditation helps us access the subtler layers at work beneath the surface of our interactions, we have greater clarity and insight into where our partner is coming from and what it is that they truly need in the moment. We are less prone to judging and condemning them, and more likely to seek a compassionate, understanding and caring approach.

Better Listening and Receiving

Meditation is in many ways about listening, receiving, accepting. It is a practice where the “doing” side of ourselves (thinking, planning, efforting) gets set aside, and we become receptive antennas for tuning into the greater flow within and all around us. In this way, meditation develops our capacity to receive — to truly take in, be present with, and accept something exactly as it is — without reaction, evaluation or improvement. As a result, we can show up more fully when our partner needs us most, and make them feel truly seen and heard.

Improved Communication

Meditation cultivates the qualities of unity, harmony, balance and truth. For this reason, it is an excellent tool to call upon in moments of heated tension or argument. Turning inward and allowing ourselves to truly sit with our feelings, without indulging our knee-jerk reactions to them, can be a truly illuminating practice, and one that can mean the difference between a draining blowout fight and an honest, heartfelt conversation that actually evolves a relationship. So next time you find yourself in an escalating argument with your partner, meditate together in silence for a few moments, and then try communicating in stillness with your eyes closed.

Greater Truthfulness

True nature is alive in each of us, but it exists behind the curtain of our everyday patterns, programmed behaviors, thoughts, and conditioning. Meditation helps us clear away these distractions, bringing us in direct contact with our Truth. This simply means that when we sit in meditation, we allow ourselves to see what’s really here right now. Whether they’re thoughts, emotions, reactions, or anything else, meditation opens our awareness and cultivates our capacity to be present with what is – without denying it, indulging it, or changing it. As we develop our awareness of Truth within ourselves, we can bring this skill to our love relationship, allowing us to clearly and objectively bear witness to our experiences and ultimately transcend them by finding a higher common ground where we can do the greater work of transforming our fears, sorrows and negativities into LOVE.

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19 Adorable Things Our Partners Do That We Love
19Sep 2016
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When we spend so much time with someone, it’s easy to overlook how truly amazing the little things are.

So this month, VIPs took some time to think about how much they appreciate these “little things,” and are here to share the adorable habits their partners do that they absolutely love.

These are the things that make us fall for each other again and again.

What are some of yours?!

19 Adorable Habits We Love In Our Partners

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How to Live in a Constant State of Love
30Aug 2016
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Written by Lifebook Member Dr. Joel Wade

When we love someone, and they enter a room, that room gets a little brighter for us, like the lights have been turned up a notch.

What brings that glow, that brightness from another fellow human being? Love is too rich and complex to boil down to some single facet or data point; but one of the essential elements that goes into feeling love for one another, is the experience of being seen.

When we fall in love with someone, we aren’t just seeing who they are, we’re seeing the best of who they are; and to see and be seen in this way is one of the greatest, deepest joys of life.

One of the central qualities of happy marriages is that both partners continue to see each other that way over time.

Researchers have found that happy mates always rate their partner more highly than other friends or observers do.

This is not some fantasy pretense or delusional wishful thinking. We are complex beings. Within every person is a rich world that takes time to understand. We are each full of aspirations and abilities and courage that aren’t obvious to just anybody.

It takes getting to know somebody deeply to see what they’re made of; and in that knowing, a loving mate will choose the best of possibilities to focus on, to reflect back towards, and in that way, to encourage more of.

In contrast, when love dies, that focus turns toward criticism and disappointment, and the gaze moves to see those very same qualities that once inspired and delighted now as weaknesses or irritations.

This is a choice that each of us can make at any moment in time; we can choose to see the best in another person… or the worst. If you want love to grow, choose the former. More…

20 Quotes to Love By
02Aug 2016
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Love is the most powerful force in the universe… the one that governs all others. Love multiplies the best we have, and gives meaning to our lives. It is through love that we come face to face with the divine.

And while the word “love” has become over-used and under-valued, here are 20 beautiful quotes that capture the essence of its mystery and magic. More…

Finding Love With Lifebook
07Jun 2016
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Article by Amanda Dudl

Amanda experienced the Lifebook Program in September of 2007.  6 months later, in the same city, a stranger named Bret became a Lifebook Member.  This is the story of their love and how they are continuing to create a legendary romance. More…

How to find the perfect babysitter
18Aug 2015
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The single greatest barrier standing between couples and a regularly scheduled, totally blissed out date night is the lack of a quality babysitter.

Add to that the dread and stress that goes along with trying to find and keep a truly quality babysitter, and you’ve already got yourself a long list of reasons why date night probably just “isn’t worth the effort.”

Sure, it’s easier to stay in, put the kids to sleep, and binge watch a Netflix series while eating some chocolate. Just throw on your favorite pair of baggy sweatpants and leap onto the old, familiar couch, and voila – date night here we come.

But is comfort really what we’re trying to create more of in our love relationships? Are laziness, exhaustion, lack of ambition and untapped creativity really what we want to cultivate?

On some nights – maybe. We’ve all been there, for sure.

But it sure as heck doesn’t stir up any new energy, emotion or romance. These things require continual creativity and action. They require discipline and commitment.

Easy doesn’t translate into extraordinary in any area of life – but this is especially true when it comes to acts of love.

So what’s a family to do?

Get CREATIVE. More…

12 Reasons Date Nights Are The Most Important Habit In Your Life
14Jul 2015
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I’ll be the first to admit – it was a glorious, beautiful thing we had back in Illinois.

My husband and I both grew up there, and raising our own children within 15 minutes of nearly everyone that we loved was an absolute blessing. We saw both our families at least once a week – but often many days in a row for work, pleasure, or a lovely combination of both.

Anytime we needed support – our families were there.

At least once a week they would take the kids for hours on end – often overnight – so we could have some quality alone time. Many times, after a family dinner or daytime hangout, the kids would beg us to let them stay longer, just for the fun of it, and Pat and I would drive away wondering how to fill this delightfully unexpected alone time together.

We were spontaneous. We could fully disconnect, knowing that the grandparents had everything totally under control. We were free to be together – not as parents, but as adults, lovers, and friends.

Glorious and beautiful, indeed.

Then, last winter, we decided to pack up our lives and moved 2,000 miles west, to northern California, completely alone.

We knew our new adventure would be nothing other than a life-changing leap into the unknown – filled with magic, rebirth, self-discovery and the forging of a newer, brighter, more fulfilling life.

And that has proven to be 100% true. But I’ll be the first to admit…

Raising kids away from family blows. More…

Cleaning the Chair = Saying I Love You
07Jul 2015
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This heart-warming video was submitted by Lifebook Member Jason Rhodes, as he decided once and for all to rid his life (and his love relationship) of a negative habit his wife had been begging him to quit for years.

Something he chose to ignore for so long had turned into a real rut in their interactions together.

Making the decision to take action and solve this problem said “I Love You” more profoundly than words ever could.

Don’t miss this heart-warming video!

(And be sure to watch to the end to see the surprise that he had for Jen on their date night!) More…

How Bart and Kellye Fell in Love All Over Again
02Jun 2015
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Submitted by Bart Patzer

LifeBook has created a great awareness – a path with clear direction to creating the life I’ve dreamed of.

Now with my wife Kellye (who took Lifebook as well), we have a clear sense of our life together, just as when we first fell in love.

All the love, the passion, the dreams of a life we would make together… those feelings… that energy of new love has had a grand awakening, making us fall even more in love – and in love with life again.

4 Ways To Stop Fighting About Money & Get On The Same Team
07Dec 2014
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Money is one of the most popular topics for argument between couples. What starts out as an intention for discipline and awareness can quickly turn into a barrage of negative emotions; frustration, stress, overwhelm, judgment – the list goes on.  We’ve all been there.  But does it really have to be that way?

The answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT.  As a matter of fact, it CAN’T be that way if we want to achieve financial freedom, live our very best lives, and experience extraordinary love relationships.

With a little positive persistence and conscious calculation, you and your partner can be on the road toward financially free (and stress free) discussions in no time.

Here are 5 ways to stop fighting and start growing as an empowered team: More…