Written by: Missy Butcher
For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a deep desire to remain solid, grounded and solution-oriented, no matter what life brings my way. It’s always been very important to me not lose my footing, fly off the handle, or spin out of control when unforeseen problems or intense emotions arise.
It turns out that Inner peace is the foundation for my Emotional Life.
Here’s what inner peace means to me:
Inner peace means experiencing feelings of harmony, tranquility, happiness, goodness, self-love, and groundedness on a consistence basis.
Inner peace entails a deep trust in myself, and the world around me. It’s based in the belief that I live in a benevolent universe, and that things will mostly tend to go my way.
And it represents the profound knowledge that when things don’t go my way, I will make the choices, I will take the actions, and I will use the words that add up to the person that I am, and always strive to be.
How do I create the experience of inner peace?
Creating inner peace is truly an internal balancing act, because there are so many different elements at play, and they must all work together…
There are many ingredients that make up my recipe for inner peace, but here are a few of the most essential
My Recipe For Inner Peace
I’ve discovered over the years that, more than anything else, inner peace requires something quite unexpected… Self discipline.
Discipline is the fundamental building block of inner piece, because it’s the foundation for everything else.
It takes discipline to keep my emotions in check and balanced in the face of intense situations and unforeseen circumstances. It takes discipline to remain grounded and think clearly in the face of adversity, so I can make good choices. It takes discipline to live a happy, healthy successful life, and to create that experience for myself and my loved ones, everyday.
Keeping my thoughts rational, clean and reality based is absolutely essential for me to experience inner peace.
I’ve always imagined the analogy of a window… If it’s cloudy, dirty or broken, it’s hard to see what’s really on the other side. The same is true for the way I see the world. I must keep my window open and clean to ensure that I have as much real information as possible, so that I can guide my life intelligently.
You can see how important the role of discipline is here. It’s easy to indulge in an emotional outburst and fly off the handle when a crisis arises. It’s much more difficult to choose clear-mindedness, stability and inner peace.
Viewing the world through a positive framework is one of my secrets to inner peace.
Believing in goodness, expecting that things will turn out well, and having a positive orientation towards everything in my life creates the fertile ground for inner peace.
This orientation, of course, can be seriously challenged with roadblocks and intense or ugly situations. But when they come up, as the inevitably will, I always remind myself that there is good in everything… The challenge is to find the good, even in the face of the most trying circumstances imaginable.
Again, discipline is key here. It’s easy to indulge in negativity. It’s easy to be judgmental, find faults and point out flaws. It takes a lot more effort to look for the good in a seemingly bad situation than it does to wallow in negativity.
I must always be true to who I am and what I deeply believe, especially during trying times.
This is fundamental, and inner peace cannot be realized unless this piece is in play. What I think, what I say and what I do are all just different expressions of who I am, and they must all be aligned or I cannot have feelings of harmony, stability, goodness and self trust. Lack of integrity causes turbulence inside, and that is the opposite of inner peace.
Integrity not only entails knowing who I am and what I’m all about (thank you Lifebook!), but it also takes a great deal of discipline. To stay true to myself and what I believe in takes constant vigilance, especially when faced with challenging situations.
Persistence & Endurance
We all know that things aren’t always easy or lovely. Life is complicated, and sometimes, difficult situations arise that are tough to figure out.
But no matter how complicated or difficult a situation might be, I know that I must never, ever give up trying to resolve it. I refuse to stop until my feeling of inner peace is restored. I’ll look under every nook and cranny… I’ll examine the situation from different angles… I’ll do whatever it takes to make it good.
I always believe, in the depths of my soul, that I CAN figure this out, I WILL find the good, and that there IS a solution that will make things even better than before.
It takes discipline to be persistent and remain committed to our own happiness, especially when we’re worn out…. To keep pushing on, even when we don’t want to. When things gets tough, I just remind myself… An extraordinary life isn’t especially easy to create, and it will never come to the faint of heart. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it!
Gratitude & Appreciation
One can never, ever have too much gratitude. Anytime I am having trouble in any area of my life, no matter what the category, I can immediately become grounded & centered when I think about things I am grateful for in my life. It’s like a magic spell…
It’s impossible for me to hold any useless negative emotions or thoughts in my mind or body at the same time that I am actively being and feeling grateful and appreciative.
This little trick gets me back on track in a moment to the daily consistent discipline of creating inner peace.
Presence & Enjoyment
This is possibly the most important ingredient of all! Life is meant to be enjoyed and living life means reallybeing here, and experiencing the moments of it.
My life is made up of years, months, weeks and days. And my days are made up of hours and moments. These moments are my life. As I experience them, I create them, and they in turn define me.
This very moment is everything. Being present and enjoying the moments of my life, both the good and the bad, is the path of inner peace. It reminds me that life is short, and I must enjoy it and make the most of every precious moment I have on this planet.
Acceptance, of myself, others, and circumstances, is key in creating self-love and feelings of tranquility.
Self-acceptance gives way for compassion, self-confidence, and self-trust.
Acceptance of others and circumstances helps me remember that I do not have control over everything that comes my way, but I do have control in how I decide to deal with it.
Patience gives me the power to deal with the reality of a situation positively and productively, and gives me time to gather all the information I need to make the best possible choice.
Patience also provides me with feelings of goodness and stability. Both patience and acceptance deeply support clarity.
Now that I’ve shared some of my elements to create inner peace, I would like to share some of the ingredients that can destroy it for me.
The Recipe For Inner Chaos
Or anything that resembles feeling like a victim. Feelings like these render us utterly powerless.
I find that the absolute antidote for sadness, grumpiness, and self-pity, is complete gratitude and appreciation.
I simply cannot hold any of these negative emotions in my mind and body at the same time that I am actively being and feeling thankful and grateful.
The overwhelming power of positivity and gratitude has the ability to erase these negative emotions immediately.
The absolute antidote for stress, overwhelm and pressure is specific, purposeful action that speaks to and answers the exact stressful situation.
For example, if I am experiencing stress or pressure about a certain job or responsibility, the only answer is action… Take care of it.
Not only does the negative emotion disappear immediately upon handling the issue, but the reward is the feeling of satisfaction, efficacy and the creation of self-esteem.
Worry is purely a waste of time and energy, and it supports feelings of overwhelm and hopelessness. Napoleon Hill said, “nothing which life has to offer is worth the price of worry,” and this quote has become a profound part of my emotional life.
The mantra that runs through my mind in face of an obstacle is this: I can totally handle this. I can and will figure this out. I am completely capable of making this right and good.
Insecurity and Self-Doubt
Self-doubt is the enemy of inner peace and well being. It stems from the thought that I am not capable or trust-worthy, which can be incredibly harmful to my self-confidence and self-esteem.
Inner peace comes from learning to trust myself. It is created through the act of believing in my own unique intelligence, abilities and goodness.
So cultivating a sense of internal security and self-confidence is vital to the experience of inner peace..
Each of these individual elements is an incredibly powerful tool for our emotional lives, and can create enormous benefits when implemented on their own.
But when combined, the power of these ingredients together can add up to something much greater.
By applying the greatest level of discipline and commitment to the achievement of these elements, we can enable ourselves to cultivate an internal environment and create a totally new emotional experience. One that is rich in profound and lasting feelings of harmony, tranquility, happiness, goodness, self-love, and groundedness.
If you have your own “inner peace ingredients” please share them by commenting at the bottom of this article. I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.